Everyone doesn’t abide by the Golden rule: do unto others as you want done unto you.
It seems, in fact, that people are more inclined to treat others as they’ve already been treated, which leaves those who do try to follow it confused
How can someone overlook you giving your best, your all, being committed and faithful and not even attempt to do the same?
The reasons are as numerous as there are people but in short, hurt people hurt people.
No one likes to suffer or be hurt over and over, but life without pain and discomfort is an illusion. The only thing we can do perfectly as humans is be flawed, make mistakes and keep trying.
When we’re in situations or relationships that look familiar to the ones that hurt us, (especially the first time) our mind can concoct some hurtful ways to protect us. The fear of being taken advantage of is a strong motivator. We lash out act irrationally, inflict pain on others and continue the cycle.
There’s an alternative, however, but it’s not for the faint of heart. The bible tells us that perfect love cast out all fear (1 John 4:18). This means that no matter how bleak the situation looks, no matter how bad we hurt, as long as love abounds it’ll pass and we’ll be a little better for it each time.
But, I refuse to lie to you, it sucks going through it. There’s no perfect way to do it that gets you through it all kittens, puppies and rainbows. So, why try and love people when they act like sheer elegant fools? Simple: because that’s what we want and need when we’re acting foolish out of fear.
What we put into this crazy, mixed up world comes back to us in some way. Love well always be a better investment than fear.